“I don’t care how much sex anyone has, how often they do it, or who they do it with. I’m much more interested in the consent, pleasure, and well-being of the participants and the people affected by it. I respect women who are asexual, celibate, monogamous, multi-partnered, or have had more partners than they can recall. I respect women who only have sex after a commitment to monogamy and those who have sex with someone within minutes of meeting them. I respect women who have transactional sex, women who have sex for love, or for any other reason. I know that all of these categories are permeable and that many women move from one to another. And I know that any of these decisions can be made from a place of personal power, choice, and authenticity, as well as from a place of coercion, shame, and disempowerment.”

~ Charlie Glickman
“If You Don’t Respect Sluts, You Don’t Respect Women”


Product Review: Four Seasons Ice Condoms


Four Seasons Ice Condoms

I tried these condoms years ago, when I was just fully coming into my sexuality. I ordered them all the way from Australia (I take my pleasure seriously), and they are still fresh in my mind.

They were amazing. When I first tried them, I thought it would be a constant cool effect, but I was pleasantly surprised: while I couldn’t feel the effect while there was movement, I got a gradual but pronounced cooling sensation during pauses in action. It spurred a sort of game between me and my partner, to try various lengths of time beyween pauses. Lots of fun.

I also loved the suggestion to keep the unused condoms in the freezer — it felt like an extra bonus. I loved telling my friends about these, then opening my fridge to play show-and-tell. Or better yet, having a friend inadvertantly find them while searching for ice!

I still recommend these to people now. In fact, you should head over to Condom Country and get a pack. If you like Trojan’s Fire and Ice condoms, you’ll love these.

The Beauty of Pheromones

I had a blast last night. Not only did I get to hang out with a good friend, but I got to do a little experiment. Because I love mixing business with pleasure.

I am a huge fan of pheromones. Whether it’s in a spray, like Pure Romances’s Kiss Body Spray, or in a oil such as Pure Instincts Sex Attractant Oil, pheromones turn me on. Literally.

However, some folks are sceptical when it comes to pheromones. After all, we’re not animals. Or are we? Research has shown that humans do indeed respond to smells and body odors. Between the simultaneous appearance to apocrine glands (which are responsible for producing our distinct body odors) and body hair (which helps spread body odor though evaporation) during,puberty, to a child’s response to the distinct smell of its mother, smell plays a part of our lives. There’s even the Vandenbergh effect, where studies have found that being in close proximity to a male’s scent during development lowers the age of maturity in women.

We humans may not detect actual pheromones, but smell does play a part in our sexual lives. And pheromones can be used to enhance our own natural scent. It also perks up our own senses and can be a great mood lifter. Which is what I witnessed last night.

My friend and I went to a bar last night. I’ve been there once before, so I had a general baseline of how the evening would play out. Yet, next thing I know, I have crowds of guys circling the back of my chair all night. I have the bartenders giving me hugs and flashing at my request. I correctly intuited a guy’s sign from across the bar (he was a Cancer — I asked). And the owner of the bar actually took time from wrangling money for tabs and bottles of booze to come and say hi, because he was happy that I’d returned. He even swore that he’d spoken to me before, but he hadn’t.

Over all it was a fun night. And maybe the pheromones didn’t hit anyone’s noses. But it did help me lower my guard and let people in. And in my eyes, that’s an even better to attract people.

Horoscopes and tarot

I love it when my horoscopes confirm my tarot readings, which in turn affirm my intuition. It’s a glorious feeling.

Here’s one of my Leo horoscopes for today:

Leo Mar 3 2012
If you sense that you are on the verge of a breakthrough in some area of your life – romance, career, or perhaps a moneymaking venture – then by all means wait for the precise moment to make your move. You may be filled with a sense of anticipation, which could cause you to leap too soon. Keep your wits about you. Study what you have done and what has or has not worked in the past. Tune in to your intuition. Look for the signs. If you play it right, this breakthrough could make a huge and wonderful change in your life.

Copyright (c) DailyHoroscope


Decameron Tarot

Now, I did a random general tarot reading yesterday (technically: because I haven’t slept yet, my day hasn’t ended in my mind). I simply asked the cards to tell me what I needed to know. I used my Decameron deck. And as I figured it would be, my reading pertained to my love life.

It seems that I’ll meet a very inspiring young man in my immediate future, as shown by the Knave of Wands. In traditional tarot, the fire page is a young person who is full of creativity and inspired wisdom, despite their seemingly short years. In the Decameron tarot, the Knave of Wands predicts “perfect sexual harmony between lovers.” Both are something that I would definitely welcome. Or would I?

Apparently I’m still experiencing some apprehension about embarking on a new relationship. I just ended a two-and-a-half-year relationship a little less than a month ago, and I’ve been taking this time to get back in touch with myself. I have a tendency to get all gung-ho in relationships (as mentioned by the Knight of Wands in the “Challenge” position of the reading). So when it comes to a new romantic relationship, I don’t see a need to rush into anything.

However, as Death in the “Helpful Influence” position suggests, I need to be careful not to turn away from this opportunity for joy because of my fear. If I let my past keep me from moving forward and letting this new love interest in, I could end up even more miserable. And I definitely don’t want that.

So seeing today’s horoscope, I have a renewed sense of hope about the future of my love life. Now would be the perfect time to start manifesting all the erophilic ideas that are crowding my head. I’ll be sure to share some experiments and report back with the results.


I don’t know how you managed to make it here to the official site of The Erophile Social Club. Maybe you found me on Twitter or Tumblr. Maybe this site showed up on your search results. Or maybe you found one of my stickers around town. Who knows? I’m just glad you’re here.

I’m going to assume that you are here because you are an erophile. You enjoy and appreciate sex. A lot. And you want more of it.

You’re not looking to have sex with just anyone (been there, done that, burned the t-shirt). But you are looking to attract suitable candidates for a shared and enjoyable sexual experience. Without having to bash someone over the head and drag them back to your boudoir.

And if you’re like me, you’re tired of apologizing for your sexuality. You cringe when someone sums up your entire sexual appetite — the physical, intellectual and spiritual aspects of it — into one word: nymphomaniac. You’re more than a sex-crazed bunny, ready to hump anything with a pulse.

You can appreciate sex on a higher level. You can respect, and even practice, ancient tantric techniques. You find the sexual traditions of different cultures fascinating. You keep an open mind about kinks and fetishes, even if they’re not your thing.  And you can admit to watching porn with your head held high. You’re a sexual connoisseur. You are an explorer of the sensual.

You, my friend, are an erophile.

Throughout this site, I’ll be sharing my wisdom, experiences, and things that tickle my fancy, and I welcome you to do the same. I also offer tarot readings and aphrodisial goodies, for whenever you need a nudge in the right direction. Most of all, I’m here to host a community of women who are proud to celebrate their sexuality, and use their wiles, along with nature’s aphrodisiacs, to attract partners and live assertively.

So once again, welcome. I hope to hear your voice in the future, because you are something to hear.